I am size 8.5/41.5. Almost all regular width shoes are too narrow. I am aware that wide shoes vary greatly in width ( e.g New Balance are too wide for me; foot moves laterally.) In your low top hiking shoes, which brands have a narrower interpretation of "wide"?
@demo Hi there. It may be that your foot is what is called "high volume" (a description of how tall your foot is from sole to instep) instead of actually "wide," which is more of a horizontal measurement. A high-volume foot can feel squeezed in a regular-width shoe, but can shift around uncomfortably with all the extra horizontal room in a true wide shoe, making you feel like you just can't get it right. But have no fear, there IS an answer! Size 8.5 falls in the standard range for both male or female sizes, and both of my next suggestions here are available in both men's and women's sizes.
I hope this helps; happy Trails and Happy Feet to you!
@demo definitely check out the Oboz in a wide width, as they will run on the more narrow side of wide!